All right, welcome back, this is Aaron Anastasi here with Superior Singing Method. This is week two of a new series that I’m doing about the psychology of singing, the psychology of being a singer. And this particular episode I’m calling What if I Fail?, or you know, How do I succeed in singing?, it’s kind of around that idea. And I want to start off by telling you a story and then we’ll kind of launch into some of the content. There’s a video called Comedian and Jerry Seinfeld is in there, it’s after he did Seinfeld and he was going all around New York City in a lot of comedy clubs and he was building up his comedy again and then he was going to, you know, just so we have a whole new show, he wasn’t going to do any of the jokes that he was doing before. And he took along this little protégé like a younger comedian and the younger comedian asked him, he said: “Well, what if, you know what if I fail? I could have been doing all these other things, what if I fail?” And Jerry Seinfeld tells the story that I want to tell you really quick and it’s going to launch into kind of the idea of what we’re talking about here.
So, Seinfeld tells him the story, he says there’s a big band, it was like a Glenn Miller Orchestra type of a band back in the 40s and they, you know, travel with all their instruments and tubes and flutes and I don’t even know what’s in a big band, come to think of it, all of the different instruments, you know, it’s like 20 different people. Anyway, their bus had broken down and they’re in their orchestra outfits, it’s in the snow, it’s like in the middle of a blizzard, so they have to get out, bus has broken down, it was before cellphones and all that, so get out and traipsing through the snow with their orchestra outfit on, carrying their instruments. And going about half a mile down the road, they see this house and they go up to the house and they look inside the window and inside the window it’s like this, I don’t know if you know who Norman Rockwell was, it was kind of this Norman Rockwell setting, painted just like this perfect little family kind of setting, there’s a wife and she’s got her apron on and she’s cooking pie and they just had dinner and the husband’s reading the newspaper on the couch and kids are playing with their trucks on the ground and one of the orchestra members looks over to the other one and looks inside and goes: “How do people live like this?”
And so the idea is this: Being an artist is different than a lot of things, it’s not the normal way of life. And so here’s kind of my main point: make a decision about what it is that you want to do you. So many of us labor over this idea of “What should I be, or what’s my calling, or what am I supposed to do?” You know, all that kind of stuff, none of that stuff matters. That type of thing is the thing that usually gets us stuck. Just make a decision: what is it that you truly love and what are you willing to go after and just make a decision and do that. You’ll know soon enough. As soon as you make a decision and get in action, you’ll know how to course correct, you know just like the analogy goes that when you’re in a car, if you’re standstill in a car, you can’t course correct, you can’t get the car anywhere. But when you’re moving, you can course correct and back, “Oh, I need to get here, I need to get there”. That’s the same thing as life. Once we get into action, we get a feel for what it takes to get there, what we need to do, or if this is something we really like or not. But just getting in action, making a decision, try Singorama, and going after it. And the decision to be an artist is different, like, these people would rather traipse through the snow and, you know, on a broken down bus just to get to the next gig because they love what they do. Seinfeld said to this kid, he says: “What else would you be doing, like what else would you be doing, like why does it matter if you fail or this doesn’t happen if that doesn’t happen?”
The idea is that we’re going through or moving towards something that matters to us. I heard it said that success is slowly realizing a worthy ideal or success is just this slow process of moving towards something that we really want, that we really like. And so my encouragement is this: to choose what it is that you want. If it’s to be an artist, being an artist is very different than anything else, but there’s nothing really like it, there’s nothing like being an entrepreneur or an artist, or specifically here, like being a singer and what is that? It’s scary and it’s exciting and it’s exhilarating and it’s terrible. It’s all those things, but you feel so alive being an artist if that’s what you’re called to do, then just live into that, just make a decision today that says: this is what I am, this is what I’m going to do, I’m going to do whatever it takes and I’m going to go after it.
When I first started this website, Superior Singing Method, I mean, now it’s been massively successful, tens of thousands of people all over the world and it warms my heart to know that, because people are reaching their dreams all over because of this little idea that started, that I and my business partner decided we’re going to move forward and do this. I don’t know how we’re going to do this or if it’ll be successful, or if anybody will ever see this thing, we’re going to move forward. So I want to tell you just
a story about when I first started doing this, me and my business partners, we started a thing called The Singing Guide. You can actually still find it somewhere deep in the recesses of the Internet, but we worked for a couple years to do this thing called The Singing Guide and we launched it and it was a massive failure, you know. We had a couple sales and this and that, it was like after two years of working, it was just done.
So, we had a decision to make at that point and it was like, “Okay, let’s just cut our losses”, I mean we spend a ton of time over those two years, billing this and filming it and thinking about it and the marketing and all that stuff. So, just forget it, let’s just move on. We’re not failures necessarily, but, you know, that’s not going to work. But that’s not what we do, we decided we’re just committed to this thing; we’re going to look for a way until we find a way. And so we took about another year, I did more study, did more research, all its brainstorming, re-filmed everything, totally new program and about a year later, it blew up. And I think back on that time and I think of all the things in my life that I gave up on because I was afraid to fail. And really, nobody’s afraid to fail, okay, let me just get that out there. Everyone thinks they’re afraid to fail, failure iss are no big deal if you fail in your house by yourself, alone. What people are really afraid of is looking like a failure in front of others, other people thinking you’re a failure.
So, the idea that I’m talking about here, of how to become a singer, is just deciding saying “This is what I’m going to do, I don’t care how many failures it’s going to take, I’m just going to move forward and do this.” In fact, I don’t believe that failure is ever a problem anybody ever faces and I know it sounds weird, but here’s what I mean: failure literally is the way you get there, okay, so, and I will talk more about that in another video, so failure is not a problem, failure is actually part of the process of becoming a success.
So I just think of: ”What if I didn’t do that?” There’d be tens of thousands of people that are close to reaching their dreams and I wouldn’t be doing what I love to do and I wouldn’t be able to make a living doing, you know, helping people reach their dreams, if I would have given that up and that’s what I think about for you. What is possible for you if you decide “I’m going to be a singer, this is what I’m going to do, I don’t care what my mom says, I don’t care what my dad says, my brother tells me I’m terrible. You know, all that kind of stuff, I don’t care. I’m going to figure it out, I know that there’s a way to figure it out”, you know, it’s back to this how thing: “How can I do that?” How is the most stuck place that people always get to, but how doesn’t matter. What matters is the what, like what am I going to do, and a decision to do it and move forward. You can always find out how, I mean, in the information age, come on. I’ve got a superior singing method that’s got more content than you can ever devour, so there’s one how and that’s just one of a million hows, you know. But the idea of just saying: “This is what I want to do, I’m an artist, I’m up for it”.
So, that’s really it for this video. I want to end again with just the idea of believe in your bigness, there’s more in you than you realize. Think about the things that people have said about you, don’t just latch onto the negative things that people say. It’s like a hundred people could say good things about us, but like two people say these bad things and then all we choose to think about are the bad things and it keeps us stuck in that thing. Give as much weight to the memories and the voices in your life that are encouraging you and telling you things that are true about you, as you give to all these negative voices and just move forward.
So, that’s it for this episode, like I said, there’s going to be a bunch more episodes. So, first of all, subscribe, so that you know when the next episode is coming out and subscribe to the YouTube channel. Also, click this link here, right up here to the right, and that’ll take you to a bunch of not great content, that’s more of not just the psychology, but my favorite exercise and techniques and all that kind of stuff that’ll be super helpful for you as well, and you can find superior singing method through that it, if that’s what you want.
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Well, thanks again for watching this whole thing and I look forward to seeing you next week for the next episode of The Psychology of Being a Singer.